It’s Sh*t Brown.
If you put on someone else’s glasses there is only a slim chance that you’ll see well. Forget having perfect vision. When you wear YOUR glasses you see everything ‘perfectly’ clear. When you try on someone else’s you may not be able to see a damn thing or you might be able to see ok. Everyone in the world physically sees everything differently. Even if it’s almost impossible to see the differences, they’re there. My point is this: no matter how similarly or differently we see things, no one will see them the same. The world is NOT black and white.
Nothing is clear cut
The same goes for just about everything in life. Politics, religion, what ‘beautiful’ means, or even what a comfortable temperature is. There is no true ‘right’ answer for anything. While everyone really, really wants to see the world in black and white… the truth is that it’s shit brown and NONE of us can see clearly for crap. Pun intended.
I started thinking about this when I was reading a post by one of my favorite bloggers, Mark Manson. In a lot of ways his glasses kinda-sorta fit me, so naturally, I like reading his stuff. And when he started talking about the complexities of this Pandemic, the economy, and what is ‘fact’ it struck a chord in me. Because this is bigger than the debate of when to re-open the economy, it’s about human nature in general.
You cannot force someone to see the world the same way you do
We like to try and mass-produce our glasses and convince those around us that they’ll work for them too. When in all reality what we SHOULD be doing is trying on other people’s glasses. Learning a thing or two. People that refuse to acknowledge that their view is anything but the 100% absolute truth are who really scare me. I can say this because I was one of those people for a long time. These people will have a discussion without listening, without actually hearing what you say because they only care about what they themselves think… and making you agree with them.
Once I figured out that admitting I was wrong wouldn’t physically kill me, I started learning more than I ever could have imagined. Once I realized I can see things through someone else’s lens without having to cart-Blanche agree with it, my relationships became deeper. It’s ok to admit we don’t know everything, that we aren’t sure, or maybe that we don’t even care! We totally don’t have to care about everything BTW.
There is nothing wrong with being wrong
You guys, being wrong doesn’t make you bad. Being empathetic doesn’t make you weak. Hearing someone out doesn’t mean you’ve abandoned your beliefs. Changing your mind about things doesn’t make you irresponsible. Realizing life is not black and white doesn’t make you pessimistic. All of these things simply mean you are capable of growth. Not all growth is good… but that’s another topic for another day.
If you’re walking around wearing your glasses thinking everything is fine.. but then go get a checkup and realize that they’re off (either a lot or a little) would you really argue to keep the old unclear prescription? Or would you want to see ‘more clearly’? In another sense, would you rather have a color TV or a black and white TV? Everything in life is a choice after all. You don’t HAVE to change.
Try on someone else’s glasses
Y’all. Be wrong. Take a different view. Consider the other side of the argument. Don’t believe everything you hear or see on social media. Dig deeper if you’re interested. Walk away if you’re not. Take a chance on learning something new. It won’t kill you. But running around with horrible vision that you refuse to work on might.