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We all have crap. But I’ll be straight up honest with you, right now as I write this, I am not a happy camper. I am annoyed with the medical equipment constantly attached to me that beeps and wakes me up. My A1c is the second highest it’s ever been even though I’m working out and eating well. I’m so
We all have crap
It’s true! As you read the above paragraph chances are you were thinking about your OWN crap as I lamented about mine. And that’s totally OK! It’s normal! We think of ourselves first, which is good otherwise we’d all be dead. But here’s the deal, comparing our crap gets us nowhere. Literally, it just makes us all more frustrated/pissy/depressed/anxious because we feel like no one cares.
I’m also not a fan of the ‘when life gives you lemons, make lemonade!” nonsense. Because crap is crap. Take my Diabetes for example. Sure, I can come up with silver linings all day long, but if I had a choice I would NEVER choose it. EVER. Because it is CRAP. It’s ok to call a spade a spade here. Crap is crap. It stinks, and we have to clean it up before it swallows us up. Which leads me to my next point.
It’s not the size of your crap that matters, but the size of your shovel
Think of it likes this: every day life gives you a dog and you have to clean up it’s crap. That’s your job if you want to be happy and lead a productive life. You must clean up your life-dog’s crap. So naturally you need a tool to clean up all the crap. Literally, we all get a dog and we all have to clean up the crap. No one is exempt. It doesn’t matter if you get a toy poodle or some giant elephant dog, you have to clean up the crap regardless of its size. Which is where your shovel comes in.
Some of us only need an olive fork for our toy poodle crap. Some of us need a backhoe for our elephant dog poop. But we are not given the shovel, we have to BUILD it. For a long
I have spent the past several years working on myself with the help of therapy, friends, and oddly enough, my direct sales business. This has helped me build the bobcat I need on a typical day. I can now efficiently clean up my crap! Except for days like today, when my bobcat breaks down, and the crap starts to pile up. I want to demand that others come and clean up the crap for me, but I know that’s not going to work. So what can I do?
- Ask for help
- Let the crap pile up while I fix my bobcat and then work some overtime
- Use my old shovel and power through while I work to fix my bobcat
None of it sounds ideal, honestly. Especially when you just want to throw your hands up and claim defeat (literally me right now). But how will that help me tomorrow? Or the next day? It’s hard to see past the
So why don’t we all just have a backhoe?
So you guys get it by now, right? The shovel is your coping skills? OK, cool. Here’s the thing about coping skills/ dog crap shovels: They are frickin’ HARD to build. Plus then you have to learn how to effectively use it. If you give a toddler a backhoe to deal with the fact that he got the blue cup he’s just going to plow through everything. Oddly, we work best as humans when our shovel is closely matched with the size of our dog’s crap. Spending a ton of time building a huge shovel for Chihuahua craps is a waste of your time and effort that you could spend elsewhere. In my humble opinion, someone who flaunts their unnecessary bulldozer is just as annoying as someone who laments their olive fork. We all know the bulldozer types. They take half the yard with them when they come to ‘help’.
If your dog is a teeny thing, use your olive fork if you’ve got one! If your dog is an elephant-sized beast, build that backhoe! but never, EVER compare the size of your crap to someone else’s. It’s a waste of time. If you have small craps to clean up, don’t feel guilty about it! If you have giant craps to clean up, don’t waste your time trying to make others see how big it is, just clean that shit up! (See what I did there? Clearly, I’m starting to feel better!)
Together we can shovel all the crap
Here’s the caveat though, on the days where you don’t have as much crap to clean up, lend your shovel if someone needs it. Whether it’s an olive fork or a backhoe, someone could probably use your help. On the days where your dog has diarrhea or whatever, ask for help. It’s ok to do that. (DO YOU HEAR YOURSELF REBEKAH?!) Or work on building a bigger shovel/ fixing your broken one. Writing does that for me, so thank YOU to everyone who went down this weird crap hole with me! I appreciate it!
Guys, in a nutshell… don’t compare your struggles with anyone else’s. You may think someone’s problems are so trivial, but to them, they might be tackling an elephant-dog sized crap with a teaspoon. Instead, let’s focus on building our shovels, lending them out when we can, and asking for help when they aren’t enough. After all, we ALL have crap!